Category : My Abortion Story
Story told by Lucy
Edited by Michael Okun Oliech
I was 18 years old when I found out I was three weeks pregnant. I was in my first year in campus. Being the firstborn in our family and a daughter of a peasant, I was so scared. I did not want to be a disappointment to my family and siblings. I wanted to complete my education and become that brilliant lawyer that I have always wanted to be and help my family. I was not ready to be a mum and raise a baby when I was still a baby myself. My boyfriend was not ready to be a dad. Considering the fact that we could barely take care of ourselves there was no way we could take care of another being.
Having an abortion was the only option that was available to us. We decided to use half of our higher learning education loan to go and get abortion services at a private hospital. The procedure was a bit painful but I was so relieved when it was over and everything went well. I was extremely relieved that I was no longer pregnant and I could now go back to class and study without stressing or worrying about the pregnancy and what people and my family would think or say about me.
Ten years down the line and looking back at the decision I made when I was young, I don’t regret it. Here I am today married to the man who stood by me during the most difficult time of my life, helped and supported me when I made the hard decision to have an abortion. I was able to attain my degree in with law first class honors and now I am a lawyer blessed with a beautiful girl and a handsome boy who are wanted and we are a happy family.
Abortion should be a choice left in the hands of women and not in the hands of policy makers, religious leaders and society at large. It is very important that women should be allowed to decide if, when and whether to become parents or not. It is our body and we should decide on what stays inside our body. When a woman decides to have an abortion we should respect her decision and make sure we avail the resources and services she needs to make it safe. I believe safe abortion is a human right and the government must respect a woman’s right to make decisions regarding her sexual and reproductive health life.