Category Archives: My Abortion Story

Wanjiku: I will be a mother when the right time comes

Category : My Abortion Story

Story By Wanjiku

Edited by Michael Okun Oliech 

I was that girl who had everything. My parents worked so hard to ensure I never lacked anything. I went to the best private primary and secondary schools, passed with flying colors and finally I got admitted to one of the top university in Kenya to pursue a degree in medicine. It was a dream come true.

In campus I fell in love with a nice guy then out of nowhere, I found out I was pregnant. I was 2 weeks pregnant to be exact. I was scared and spent days crying. I was 19 years old and I had big dreams. I saw myself as a failure for allowing myself to get pregnant at that age without achieving my dreams and goals in life.

My boyfriend and I were not ready to become parents. It wasn’t fair to bring a baby into this world that we had never planned for. After going through and weighing the different options that we had, I knew what I had to do. I decided to have an abortion. I was not going to tell my parents about it or my friends. It was one of the most difficult decisions I had to make.

With the support of my boyfriend, I was able to get the best safe abortion services at a well-known health facility that offers safe abortion services and moved on with my life.

I made the right choice and I don’t regret it. I have always wanted to be a mother and I know I will be a great mother when the right time comes. For now I am not ready to be a mother. There is time for everything and being a mother is a future dream for me. The dream that I have right now is to graduate with a first class honors in medicine.


Abortion rights is vital for gender equality

Category : My Abortion Story

By Michael Okun Oliech

No woman can call herself free until she can choose consciously whether she will or not be a mother. –  Margaret Sanger founder of Planned Parenthood.

Abortion rights is vital for gender equality. Women need free access to safe abortion services in order to achieve full political, social and economic equality with men and achieve their full potential.

Women need the full right over their bodies just like men. Without this right, they don’t have the moral status as men. Men don’t get pregnant and are not restricted when it comes to what to do with their bodies and the right to choose whether to have children or not. If women have the right to choose, we can achieve equality with men.

The right to control one’s own body is a key moral right that everyone is entitled to and women can achieve this if they are entitled to end an unintended pregnancy if they wish to do so. That is freedom.

A woman has the moral right to decide what she can and can’t do with her body, whether a foetus which is part of her body remains in her body and the right to end the pregnancy she is carrying.

Enabling women have access to safe abortion rights not only protect their rights to bodily integrity and autonomy but will enable millions of women participate fully and equal in society.

 


Elizabeth: I made the right choice

Category : My Abortion Story

Story by Elizabeth

Edited by Michael Okun Oliech 

My name is Elizabeth. I had an abortion because I was raped. I was raped by someone who I trusted and confided in all the time. I was raped by someone who I thought would never raise his hand to kill a fly. I was raped by someone who I had known for ten good years as my best friend. He was high on drugs when he did the inhumane act to me.

There was no way I was going to keep the pregnancy. I knew I couldn’t bring a baby in this world that was conceived out of so much hate. I hated him so much for what he did to me. Never in my life have I ever felt dirty but after that horrible day I felt so dirty.

After some serious soul searching, I made the decision to have an abortion. It was the hardest decision of my life but I knew it had to be done. I don’t regret the decision I made because I know it was right for me.


If men got pregnant, abortion would be safe and legal everywhere

Category : My Abortion Story

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By Michael Okun Oliech

Consider how different the world would be if men got pregnant.

If men got pregnant, abortion would be normal and not a source of shame.

If men got pregnant, access to abortion services would be a man’s right and no one would question that.

If men got pregnant, abortion would be safe and legal everywhere here on earth.

If men got pregnant, abortion would be available free of charge everywhere here on earth.

If men got pregnant, no man would be expected to justify his decision to end an unwanted pregnancy.

If men got pregnant, unsafe abortion would not exist and would not be the leading cause of maternal mortality in the world.

If men got pregnant, they wouldn’t be subjected to an ultrasound of the foetus before having an abortion.

If men got pregnant, the power to choose would be left in their hands and not in the hands of religious leaders, political leaders and women.

If men got pregnant, there would be no pro-life activist. Every political movement would be about championing for human freedom to choose.

If men got pregnant, no one would question a man’s choice to have an abortion. His choice would always be respected.

If men got pregnant, we wouldn’t be having this conversation. But since we are having it, it show us how far we need to go in order to realize equality in our society.


Diana: As a Christian I support the right to choose

Category : My Abortion Story

By  Diana

Edited by Michael Okun Oliech

As a Christian I may not like abortion but I firmly stand by women’s right to choose. Having that right to choose is a beautiful thing and it means freedom.

A Woman’s body, and the right to choose have nothing to do with politics and religion. As long as it is my uterus I’ll choose what stays inside it and what doesn’t.

Almost half of all pregnancies here in Kenya are not planned and no woman or girl should be forced to have a child that she is not ready for or does not want.

I want every woman and girl in this country to have freedom. Freedom to choose is a right that everyone is entitled to regardless of race, sex, pregnancy, marital status, health status, ethnic or social origin, color, age, disability, religion, conscience, belief, culture, dress, language.

It is not my place or responsibility to tell people what to do or how to live their lives. If a woman or girl decides to have an abortion, we need to respect her choice and work on ensuring that she has access to high quality, stigma free safe and legal abortion services.


Anne: I had my abortion 16 years ago

Category : My Abortion Story

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Story told by Anne

Edited by Michael Okun Oliech

It was in 2002. I was 19 years and was in a relationship but since contraceptives were hard to find those days in our rural home, I got pregnant. We relied so much on the withdrawal and safe day’s methods but it failed us.

My boyfriend didn’t want anything to do with the pregnancy despite being responsible for the pregnancy. He decided to break up with me. I was left helpless and hopeless.

I had no source of income. I had no family to turn to since they were all dead. I could barely take care of myself.  I relied heavily on my boyfriend who was a teacher in a local primary school but since he was gone, I felt as if my world ended.

I was not ready to have a child under the harsh conditions I was in. It would be cruel to bring a child into this world just to let her or him suffer. I decided to have an abortion but it was expensive for me to have one since I had no source of income.  I had to find ways to raise the money.

With no one to turn to or talk to, I ended up in the street of Kondele in Kisumu County where I became a sex worker. I did the job for one month and I was able to raise some money.

I went to a backstreet doctor who was charging half less of what other private hospitals were charging to have my abortion.

I almost lost my life in the process due to excessive bleeding. I was rushed to a public hospital by a Good Samaritan where I got post abortion care but my womb had to go. Even though I was lucky to have survived, I lost my womb. Had there been access to safe and legal abortion services I would still be able to get pregnant now.

No girl or woman should have to go through what I had to go through.  There is need to provide women and girls with safe abortion services when they need it so that they don’t go to drastic lengths like I did.


You are not alone

Category : My Abortion Story

By Faith

Edited by Michael Okun Oliech

To the women and girls who believe in choices.

To the women and girls who have made the right choice for themselves to have an abortion.

To the women and girls who are considering to have an abortion

To the women and girls who have ended their pregnancies for the sake of their education, career, safety, health, wellbeing and future.

To the women and girls who have been denied the right to choose

To the women and girls who are unapologetic about the choices they made

To the more than 1 million of us

You are not alone.  You owe no one an explanation on the choices that you make. You owe no one an apology on the choices that you make.

You are strong. You are beautiful. You are amazing. You are resilient. Let no one put you down based on the choices that you make.

You have the right to choose on what stays in your body and what does not. Be strong and firm on the decision and choices that you make.

My body, My choices, My right. Period.


Tom: My pharmacy might be small but it keeps women healthy and safe

Category : My Abortion Story

Story narrated by Tom

Edited by Michael Okun Oliech

As a pharmacist, I usually get a lot of clients more so young women who come to me with a lot of questions about abortion and how to use the abortion pill.

Every day I get up to 5 women who come to buy the abortion pill and get more information on how it works. I offer my services secretly for fear of being arrested and charged in a court of law for helping women get abortion and risk a jail term of up to 14 years.

Despite the risk, I still do it because I want to save lives and I believe abortion is part of health care and health care is a human right. Denying safe abortion services and information to women and girls would be a violation of their rights.

Abortion is part of women’s lives. You might think abortion is not normal or common but the truth of the matter is that, abortion is very normal and common than you think.

Abortion occurs everywhere regardless of what the laws are. Restricting abortion doesn’t make it go away but instead it makes abortion be done secretly and unsafe putting the lives of women in danger. Unsafe abortion causes permanent injuries and even death.  No woman should have to risk her life or health because she lacks safe reproductive health choices.

I believe that decisions affecting a woman’s body should be left to women to decide and once they make their choice or decision known it should be respected and our role is to only make sure we provide safe and necessary resources she needs to make that choice a reality. Every person has the right to choose whether or not to move through a full pregnancy. No person should be forced through a full pregnancy.

I am a pharmacist and not a politician or a religious leader. I believe in choices. I believe that women have a right to access safe abortion information and services when they need it.  My pharmacy might be small but I am glad it keeps women healthy and safe in my community.


Lucy: I was not ready to be a mother

Category : My Abortion Story

Story told by Lucy

Edited by Michael Okun Oliech

I was in my second year in campus when I found out I was pregnant. I was shocked. I was using a birth control method and I didn’t expect to get pregnant. It was clear to me that my birth control method had failed after all they are not 100 percent effective.

I was not ready to be a mother. Never in my life have I ever thought of having a child. I decided to have an abortion in a private hospital secretly without my partner knowing because I knew he would stop me despite me not being ready to be a parent.

My abortion saved my life. I could not have finished my studies in campus and started a career in journalism with an unintended pregnancy. I don’t regret making that choice to have an abortion. So long as it is my body, I make my own choices. Period.

 


Linda: We all have choices

Category : My Abortion Story

Story told by Linda

Edited by Michael Okun Oliech

Back in high school 6 years ago, I fell in love with a guy who I thought was Mr. Perfect. He was so good to me until when I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant for him.  He refused to take responsibility and accused me of cheating and he dumped me over the phone.

I was hurt and angry but I was raised to be strong through tough times. I put myself together and after some serious thinking and soul searching, I decided to have an abortion. Having a child wouldn’t work out for me at that point of my life considering the fact that I was still young and in school.

Through the support of my mother, I was taken to a private clinic where I was to have my abortion. At first, the doctor in charge tried to convince me to keep the pregnancy but that did not change my mind and decision to have an abortion. I had my abortion and everything went well.

My ex-boyfriend later started to accuse me of killing his unborn baby, he told his friends what I had done and they all started calling me awful names just to shame me. I never had peace. I felt so helpless and hopeless because I had no one to talk to on what I been through.

My mum decided to change my school and we relocated to another estate to start a new life where no one knew what I had been through. I moved on with my life and am now concentrating on my studies in campus. I am in a healthy relationship with a man who would catch a grenade for me and jump in front of a train for me.

I hate the fact that there is so much stigma out here that comes with having an abortion. I believe that no woman or girl should be forced to carry a pregnancy she is not prepared to have just to satisfy a man and society at large who have no clue at all about her life, situation or what she is going through. We all have choices and having an abortion is one of them and should stay that way.