“I Talk To My Kids About Sex.”
Category : Naya Blog
By Michael Oliech Okunson (@MikeOkunson)
Melisa Anyango is 30 years old. She plays father and mother to her three kids, her husband having passed on. Paul is eight years old, Steve is five and Grace is nine years.
As a mother of three young children, she knows the importance of equipping them with the right sexual and reproductive health information to enable them make informed choices.
It hasn’t always been like that though.
She changed her mind after observing what happened when some of her relatives were not free with their children.
But it was not until she attended a NAYA Community Forum where the importance of cross generational dialogue was discussed that she had a whole new view of the situation.
She now strongly believes that parents should talk to their kids early about sex because through this the children will be able to understand their body and will always think positively about their bodies as they grow.
She spreads the gospel in her area that chats between children and parents should begin at an early age so that there is no tension or embarrassment when the topic of sexuality is broached.
Melissa is now a strong believer that every information and knowledge that children gets should first come from their parents or guardians. This prevents young people from accessing the wrong information elsewhere including through peers and the internet.
As a mother of three kids first approaching adolescence and sexual debut, she knows it’s her prerogative to ensure the future of her kids by empowering them to abstain and if they can’t then to make safe sexual choices.
She states that when parents are communicating to their children then they need to be honest and open to them.
“We should respect their views and don’t be so judgmental.”
She argues that once one has built a strong foundation with their kids then as the kids grows up and reach the trials of adolescent, they are more likely to speak up about their issues freely.
She says most parents fear talking to the adolescents because of fear and embarrassment.
The ever smiling Melisa quotes a saying that prevention is better than cure.
“We the parents need to stop running away from our responsibilities leaving all these duties to the school and friends and social media”.
“A child is more likely to listen to the parent than the teacher and friends;” she adds.
Her mission, she says will not be complete until she has shared what she learnt from NAYA with the rest of the community.
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