By Doris Kathia
Globally, the idea of “family values” is often upheld as a moral issue. However, this idea can be weaponized to perpetuate patriarchal norms that justify abuse and silence survivors within the family unit. In many cultures, the notion of family honor serves as a shield, protecting perpetrators of violence and forcing victims to endure in silence for fear of shame or ostracism. This veneer of tradition and morality conceals the insidious prevalence of family violence, a form of gender-based violence (GBV) that disproportionately impacts marginalized groups, including women and sexual minorities.
Gender-based violence (GBV) is a significant issue in Kenya and across the globe. GBV encompasses all harmful acts directed at an individual that are grounded on unequal power relations and based on the socially ascribed gender roles or expectations, which cause physical, sexual, psychological, or economic harm or suffering. GBV takes place in many forms, including, but not limited to, sexual, emotional, economic, social, and legal violence. Family settings are supposed to be safe spaces where individuals find refuge, love, and support. Yet, they are frequently the very sites where physical, emotional, and psychological abuse occur. From a husband assaulting his wife to parents punishing a child for expressing their sexual orientation, violence within families is often excused under the guise of “discipline” or “cultural values.” Such narratives perpetuate a dangerous cycle: victims remain trapped in silence to “protect” family honor, and abusers evade accountability. When these dynamics are normalized, they contribute to a society where violence is excused and survivors are left unsupported.
The recent incidents of the femicide crisis in Kenya demand urgent action. For instance, in just three months, 97 femicides were reported, adding to nearly 4,000 GBV cases logged monthly. These statistics represent lives lost, futures cut short, and communities shattered by preventable violence.
Notably, femicide is faced by a pervasive culture where violence within families is normalized or ignored under the guise of “preserving family honor.” This culture silences survivors, discourages accountability, and perpetuates cycles of abuse. Reframing family violence as a form of GBV, we confront the societal norms and structures that enable these atrocities and call for a redefinition of family protection—one that is inclusive, equitable, and rooted in respect for all. True family values are rooted in love, respect, and equity, not in patriarchal control or harmful traditions.
Every woman lost to femicide, every survivor silenced by societal pressure, and every life disrupted by family violence reminds us that we must demand action from our leaders, accountability from our institutions, and a collective commitment to ending gender-based violence in all its forms. Family violence is gender-based violence, and it must end—now.
To combat this crisis, we must first confront the toxic narratives that uphold it. The romanticization of “family values” often places women and sexual and gender minorities in harm’s way, reinforcing harmful patriarchal norms. When family structures prioritize control and conformity over equality and respect, they become breeding grounds for abuse.
Kenya is taking a vital step in addressing violence against women and girls. President William Ruto’s commitment of KSh 100 million to combat this escalating crisis is a promising signal. Directing law enforcement to prioritize such cases demonstrates a willingness to shift from rhetoric to action. However, funding and directives alone will not solve the issue. Efforts must be paired with grassroots interventions that reach the heart of communities. Law enforcement must be trained to handle cases with sensitivity, and survivors must be empowered to seek justice without fear of retribution.